He asked her; “What’s the secret to your longevity?” She stared at him for along time over the thick rim of her glasses. Then, she picked up her double scotch, shot it back, slowly rose from her chair, shuffled over to her birthday cake, lit a smoke off a candle and blew it into his face.
“Live every day like it’s your 100th birthday.” she said. Put on your crown, know your worth and know you matter. I’m a god damn work of art. We all are. Yes, even you. We should start treating each other that way.”
Once upon a time, there was a family of 7.2 billion people running around their little blue planet trying to change each other and beating each other up. No one really knew why.
Each new generation picked up where the generation before had left off, ridiculing, mocking, shunning, shaming, judging and attacking their family members for their different beliefs, social status, gender, sexual orientation, alliances, traditions, looks and well, just about anything.
When they could have been building a beautiful world together and caring for one another; they wasted time and energy blowing things up, destroying the planet, hurting each other, even going to war with each other over their differences.
One day a group of children within the family decided “this is dumb” we’re not going to play like this anymore. And they didn’t, and over a few generations the family began to heal.
They still had disagreements, but now they worked through them without judgment and without causing each other significant harm.
Soon the family began to realize they were supposed to be different. It was their differences that made them stronger, healthier and collectively wiser. They saw that when they lifted each other up, and listen to each other‘s perspectives, they achieved more together then they did apart.
No, they did not all live “happily ever after”, but they did live “better ever after.”
**I don’t want to look like you, be like you, think like you, have the same hopes, dreams or goals as you. Those things belong to you, those things are a part of your journey.
The only thing we should be the same at, is accepting and loving each other exactly as we are; and, embracing the notion, “we’re supposed to be different, it’s our differences that give us our collective strength.”
I’m gonna’ love your beautiful, weird, messy, little soul as it is and, I’m gonna’ love my own weird, messy, little soul as she is. That’s it. The End~
Beautiful friend. Stop worrying so much about so little.
Don’t worry about the ones that left you behind, be grateful for the ones who are still by your side.
Don’t worry about promises not kept or plans that didn’t work out. They weren’t supposed to, they weren’t meant for you.
Don’t worry about the past or be angry, jealous or spiteful about days gone by. Be grateful for the lessons and move on.
What hurt you yesterday, has already begun to heal today. If yesterday didn’t go exactly as you hoped, today the slate is clean, you get to start over.
We’re all magical, messy, mixed up little souls painting lives that are constantly works in progress. So, my beautiful friend, stop being so hard on yourself and stop worrying so much, about so little.
Be gentle with yourself today and every day. Just relax you messy little soul, just relax. TO’K~ 🌹❤️
We learn more during life’s painful moments and challenges, than we learn in our moments of glory.
Each stabbing ache, each crushing disappointment, each heartbreak, every loss or painful fall from grace, allows us an opportunity to grow and become stronger.
Whether it’s emotional or physical; pain forces us to slow down, rest and take the time we need to heal.
Getting knocked down isn’t always a bad thing. Pain can leave us humbled, wiser and more patient. It allows us to lower our veil, be vulnerable, more tolerant and compassionate towards the pain we see or even cause, in others.
Sometimes pain itself is the cure for the things in life that hurt us; as it slows us down long enough to evaluate what and who is important.
When pain knocks on your door, let it in, sit with it. Let it show you what it wants you to see, to learn or to grow into.
Pain always, ALWAYS, brings with it opportunities for transformation. Opportunities to wrap yourself in your cocoon, and when you’re ready, to emerge with greater clarity about who you are, what’s important, why you’re here and how you want to live, love, play and BE.
Pain can be a beautiful teacher. Don’t waste your pain on “the pain” use this opportunity as a stepping stone to chart the next chapter of your journey.
Your pain will hurt you, it will also help, heal and lead you.
I dislike and rarely use, the term “The truth hurts.” because, it doesn’t always have to.
Even when we convey disappointing or unpleasant information, we can still use words to reassure, comfort, support, show empathy, motivate, inspire, educate or encourage optimism.
In a world where it’s easy to use multiple mediums to fire off messages filled with emotional backlash and sometimes dire consequences, we need to choose our words carefully.
It’s not always “the truth” that hurts, it can be the mis-truths, the half truth, the lies, the mean spirited intent behind the words or how a message is delivered, that hurts.
Your words can break a spirit or save it, bring light to someones day or shroud it in darkness, can lift someone up or tear them down, can soften a heart or make it cold, deliver tears of joy or tears of sorrow, can influence opinion and evoke emotion.
Our words are little bullets. On average, most of us fire off approximately 7000 of them every single day. (OK some of us may use a few more than that😊)
When eloquently strung together those 26 little letters (if you speak English) can make up words that move us to create, laugh, cry and touch one another in the most profound ways.
Before you speak or send a message ask yourself; have I been kind? have I been sensitive? is the information true? is the information even necessary?
Then ask yourself “Will my words cause pain or discomfort?” If they will, ask yourself how you can be supportive, inspire or encourage optimism, healing and growth?
It’s equally important to be cautious with your silence. Our words when left unspoken, can be just as powerful. The things we do not say or do not ask or do not explore, can send messages indicating we do not care, we’re not interested or we’ve given up. Words left unspoken sometimes create a void others fill with assumptions. Most often, incorrect assumptions.
Other times your silence is exactly what the situation calls for. It says I’m not going to engage in what might be an emotionally charged setting. So rather than using your words, it might be best to listen compassionately to the words of others.
Your words both spoken and unspoken belong to you. Before you fire them off or keep them locked in your holster, consider the impact and the consequences of each powerful bullet.
No work-out routine, diet program, steroid, or sizeable muscle mass will give you more power than the weight your words. Exercise them carefully.
What does real human beauty look like? Is it in the eyes? the lips? the curves on a body? Is it something we can touch? something that gives pleasure or an emotion we can feel? Maybe beauty is not what we are, perhaps it’s something we become? ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️ Kindness, positivity, a gentle heart and the way you shine your light ~ Let these things be the most beautiful and defining qualities in you.
One day I hope you wake up with a sense of “knowing”. A knowing that allows you to realize that each step along your path was a lesson leading you to exactly where you’re supposed to be, which is here living this life, with this tribe.
And in this moment of “knowing”, every heartache, loss, mis-adventure, the chaos, the confusion, the pain, the highs and the lows, are all understood.
And because of this realization, you’re able to release the burden of any, anger, judgment, jealousy, hate or regret, because you now understand these things have never served you, they merely blocked your path.
Yup, one day, I hope we all arrive at this place, a little wiser, kinder, more playful and peaceful, “knowing” we’re all teachers and students, here for each other. And then, we’ll party 🤗🎉
“Let it go, Let it be. Let you be you, and me be me.”
You’re allowed to step away from everything and everyone demanding anything from you. You don’t have to explain why, you may not even know why.
You’re allowed to stop and go to your sanctuary. Perhaps it’s amongst the trees or under the stars. You might find it’s next to the lull of moving water, or in an open field of wild flowers or along a trail that leads you to beautiful vistas. A place that’s tranquil, uncluttered and asks nothing of you other than to enjoy her beauty. A place where you can exhale and surrender to the sound of your soul whispering all she wants you to know. A place you can close your eyes and both listen and HEAR.
We all need quiet spaces away from the noise of the world. Spaces we can show up as the confused, messy, tired little beings we all sometimes become. Spaces away from judgement and expectations. Spaces where we can sort ourselves out, put ourselves back together and heal.
You’re allowed to put down the weight and the burdens you carry; to rest, reflect, and catch your breath.
So do that. Give yourself permission to take a break from all of it “IT” and drown yourself in peace.