Beauty

By Toni O’Keeffe

What does real human beauty look like?
Is it in the eyes? the lips? the curves on a body?
Is it something we can touch? something that gives pleasure or an emotion we can feel?
Maybe beauty is not what we are, perhaps it’s something we become?
❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
Kindness, positivity, a gentle heart
and the way you shine your light ~
Let these things be the most
beautiful and defining qualities in you.

Toni O’K~🌹❤️

“Knowing”❤️

By Toni O’Keeffe

One day I hope you wake up with a sense of “knowing”. A knowing that allows you to realize that each step along your path was a lesson leading you to exactly where you’re supposed to be, which is here living this life, with this tribe.

And in this moment of “knowing”, every heartache, loss, mis-adventure, the chaos, the confusion, the pain, the highs and the lows, are all understood.

And because of this realization, you’re able to release the burden of any, anger, judgment, jealousy, hate or regret, because you now understand these things have never served you, they merely blocked your path.

Yup, one day, I hope we all arrive at this place, a little wiser, kinder, more playful and peaceful, “knowing” we’re all teachers and students, here for each other. And then, we’ll party 🤗🎉

“Let it go, Let it be.
Let you be you, and me be me.”

Toni O’K ~ 🌹❤️

Let the good vibes roll

By Toni O’Keeffe

I wake up “almost” every morning excited about the unexpected adventures, learning, inspiration, sights, and sounds the day might bring.

Will I meet someone new? Will I discover a wee hovel or an amazing vista somewhere?

Perhaps the road I choose today will lead to a spark of creative inspiration that motivates me to paint, write or grow something amazing.

It’s this hope, excitement, anticipation and the day-dreaming that lifts me up, tickles my soul and sets the tone for my day AND my life.

No matter what’s causing you pain, or what’s bringing you down, you can still choose to be optimistic, hopeful and excited about what’s to come.

It’s this hope, optimism and our whimsy little dreams that shape our futures and colour our lives.

It’s easy to let fear, pain, pessimism and a lack of dreams cast dark clouds over your future. It’s much easier to allow hope to guide you and brighten your day.

Despite the darkness, we can choose to gaze towards the light and be the happy, hopefully, kind little humans we’re meant to be.

You can do this by;

  • Recognizing you can change your mind set at anytime.
  • Learning something new and getting excited about where this new knowledge might lead you.
  • Taking up a creative pursuit, or rekindling your love of an abandoned hobby, diving into the arts, music, reading, writing, building or creating.
  • Changing the story you’re playing in your head. We believe what we think we are, so, write a story where you see yourself as amazing, happy, hopeful and healthy.
  • Practicing gratitude.
  • Spending time in nature ( for me, an instant pick me up)
  • Visioning what’s possible!
  • Remembering all storms ( every single one) will pass.
  • Eliminating negative, angry, pessimistic people from your life. These relationships are exhausting.
  • Stop being concerned and judgmental about how others are living their lives.
  • Be kind instead of offended or angry.
  • Be aware of what information, images, and ideas your feeding your beautiful mind.

No matter what’s going on for you today, I hope you choose to be enthusiastic about life and hopeful about everything you still want to do, see, learn, discover and explore.

DON’T let what ails you today, be the building block for your tomorrow.
Let those good vibes roll baby❤️

Love Toni

Quiet spaces

By Toni O’KEEFFE

You’re allowed to step away from everything and everyone demanding anything from you.
You don’t have to explain why, you may not even know why.

You’re allowed to stop and go to your sanctuary.
Perhaps it’s amongst the trees or under the stars. You might find it’s next to the lull of moving water, or in an open field of wild flowers or along a trail that leads you to beautiful vistas. A place that’s tranquil, uncluttered and asks nothing of you other than to enjoy her beauty. A place where you can exhale and surrender to the sound of your soul whispering all she wants you to know. A place you can close your eyes and both listen and HEAR.

We all need quiet spaces away from the noise of the world. Spaces we can show up as the confused, messy, tired little beings we all sometimes become. Spaces away from judgement and expectations. Spaces where we can sort ourselves out, put ourselves back together and heal.

You’re allowed to put down the weight and the burdens you carry; to rest, reflect, and catch your breath.

So do that. Give yourself permission to take a break from all of it “IT” and drown yourself in peace.

Toni O’K~ 🌹❤️☮️

Is less, more?

By Toni O’Keeffe

Maybe LESS really is MORE ?

Most of our lives we’re told to be MORE, to want MORE to consume MORE.
Perhaps, we all need to be a little LESS right now?
~ Less doubtful and more optimistic
~ Less offended and more understanding
~ Less worried and more calm
~ Less impatient and more tolerant
~ Less critical of yourself and more self nurturing
~ Less violent and more peaceful
~ Less angry and more loving and kind
~ Less prejudice and more accepting
~ Less greedy and more giving
~ Less negative and more positive
~ Less indifferent and more compassionate
~ Less wasteful and more environmentally conscious
~ Less entitled and more grateful
~ Less busy and more chill baby😊
~ Less blinded by truth, and more acknowledging of where humanity has faltered and failed, so we can ALL finally heal.

Imagine if we were all a little bit LESS; how much MORE we could ALL be together.

Toni O’K~🌹❤️

Why do we park our Happiness?

By Toni O’Keeffe

Our entire lives we’re on a quest to feel whole and happy. As we wait for happiness to arrive, some of us fill the empty spaces in our lives with distractions, temporary highs, busyness, unfulfilling relationships, toxic substances, material possessions and the debt that often comes with them, but still, the emptiness remains.

As children we knew how to laugh, how to play and what made us happy. It was being close to the ones we loved, exercising our curiosity, exploring our environment, creating adventures, making art, splashing in puddles, running barefoot in the rain, playing in a forest or a pond, taking risks and trusting we’d be okay, even if we fell; these are the things that filled us up.

Then, as we grew, life became cluttered with distractions, busyness, possessions, stress, too much information, self doubt and responsibility. Many of us parked our creativity, abandoned our curious nature, spent less time with those we loved and we stopped doing those wonderful things that made us happy when we we’re children.

It’s time to invite the child who lives in each of us to come out and play, to remember the happiness we felt when we set ourselves free from the clutter and distractions that bog us down.

Even amidst the frenzied noise and turmoil in the world, we can still CHOOSE to be happy.

Today is a good day;
~ To look up and see the world through the curious eyes of the child in you and reclaim your sense of wonder.
~ To seek out a new adventure and bask in the beauty around you.
~ To flip over a few rocks along the shoreline and see what scurries out.
~ To pull out a colouring book, make a kite, play in the sand, go to a park and get on a swing, hang off a monkey bar, make a mud pie or do some happy finger painting on your guest room wall.
~ To giggle, to play and melt back into your authentic happy little self.

Today’s a good day to be happy.
To let go and jump, skip, slide, soar, surf, run, ride, sail, paddle or swim, right past anything blocking your path to happiness.

You came into this world knowing where happiness resides, it’s still there waiting for you to unleash its power over your life.

Love Toni 🌹❤️

You don’t have to fit in

Let’s stop telling each other to “fit in”.
We either fit or we don’t.
If we don’t, we’re not supposed to.

If I tried to force my body into a size 0 pair of jeans, the experience would be painful. I’d look awful, I’d be uncomfortable, feel horrible and I wouldn’t be able to move or share my gifts.

So why do we try and make souls fit where they’re not supposed to? or, be things they’re not meant to be?

Our “have to fit in” culture has caused generations of beautiful, creative, intelligent, loving souls to feel less than they are and has stifle their contribution to the world.

The world needs your kind of magic.
Don’t hide the colourful, quirky, woo-woo in you.
If you do, how will your tribe ever find you?

Toni O’K ~🌹❤️

Allowing yourself and others to change and grow

I was listening (okay I was ease dropping) on a conversation the other day.

Two women were chatting about a common “friend”who is constantly changing.

“She can’t stay in one place,” one of them said. “She has changed jobs four or five times since I’ve known her,” the other one commented in that rolling her eyes tone of voice.

I heard phrases like;

“Get her act together,”

“Stick with one relationship,”.

“Her bohemian phase,” and

“She needs to decided if she’s Buddhist, an atheist or something different.”

Hmm, their “friend” sounds a bit like me in my late 30’s.

It appeared they believed those who are constantly changing are somehow broken.

I have a completely different perspective.

I believe we should be constantly changing.

You’re allowed to change your mind or shift your perspective. Especially when it comes to the big stuff. That’s how we grow.

The knowledge, experience and insights we acquire over the course of our lives SHOULD shape and change us.

My God, if I was still living my life based on the insights and experience of my 12 year old self, I’d be a hot mess of jellybeans, acne and mood swings, guided by my crush on Bobby Sherman and a desire to grow boobs.

Like everything on the planet, we’re supposed to change. Those little seeds we come from are supposed to take root, grow, blossom and then we shed our leaves (aka Feng~shui your life) rest, and start all over again and again and maybe again.

You don’t have to stay in a particular mind set, job, relationship or community if it no longer feels right. When we change our mind, shed old thinking and outdated perspectives, it means we’re thinking, pondering and working our brain muscles. It means we’re growing and creating the space for new adventures, new relationships and new opportunities.

I hope you allow yourself to constantly change and grow. And, along the way you let go of the attitudes, beliefs and people that no longer give you life. If you can’t, at least don’t judge the ones that are.

Toni O’K~🌹❤️

Doing nothing might be the most productive “something” you can do.

Sometimes doing nothing can be the most productive “something” you do for yourself.

I’ve learned more about myself and others when I bask in stillness and silence.

Filling our lives with busyness and noise is the least productive thing we can do for our minds, bodies and spirits.

It’s in calm and quietude, that we process the learning we’ve acquired on this wild ride called life, and make sense of the things we’ve gone through.

When we lay down our burdens and close our eyes, we see clearly and we allow healing to take place. It’s in a state of hush that the answers we seek arrive and the way forward is revealed.

Doing absolutely nothing, can sometimes be the perfect path towards an amazing and beautiful something.

Release everything that ails you, haunts you or weighs heavy on your “being” and, gift yourself with a little bit of nothing today.

Sending love and light to whomever needs it☀️❤️.

TO’K~🌹❤️

Follow your joy.

If what you’re doing, what you have, where you’re at or who you spend your time with, doesn’t bring you joy ~ give yourself permission to let it go.

If finding joy seems hard because you have a mortgage to pay, a family to support, educational goals you want to achieve or you’re caring for someone, change your perspective and find joy in these things and where these things and people will lead you.

If you can’t change your current circumstances you can still;

  • Make self care a priority. There is no one who is more important and worthy of self care than you, no one.
  • Stop worrying and overthinking, it serves no purpose. It takes as much energy to focus on what’s right in your life, as it takes to focus on what’s wrong. However, the affect of focusing on what’s right can have a huge positive benefit on your physical, spiritual and mental well being.
  • Nurture yourself in nature. Learn to be still beside the ocean, in a forest, or sitting on top of a rocky bluff. Listen to the peacefulness and bring calm into your life.
  • Avoid being drawn into other peoples drama/conflict.
  • Manage the internal dialogue in your head. We tell ourselves stories about ourselves that are just not true. Stories such as “I’ll always be alone.” “I’m going to be in pain my entire life.” “I’ll never get fit.” “I’ll always be poor.” “I won’t be happy until this situation changes.” Change the story you tell yourself about yourself.
  • Make plans to do something you’ve always wanted to do, even if that something is still off in the future.
  • Try spending less $ on “stuff” and spend more time making memories and having experiences.
  • Interact with positive uplifting people.
  • Take a break from media and tune into a comedy channel instead.
  • Purge stuff; sell, donate or get rid of things that no longer serve you and your life.
  • Say goodbye to toxic people and relationships.
  • Stop being offended by every little damn thing. You’re not responsible for how others behave or why they do the things they do. So stop being judgmental or worrying that others may judge you. We’re not all on the same path, we’re not supposed to be.
  • Get moving. Physical activity to the degree you’re able, can; improve your memory and brain function, help manage chronic pain, assist in weight management, lower blood pressure and improve heart health, improve your quality of sleep, reduce feelings of anxiety and depression and, reduce “life fatigue”.
  • Cultivate an attitude of gratitude. Focus on the things in your life that do bring you joy; the ones you love, your pets, your garden, a sunset, creating art, the first sip of coffee as you start your day, a ride along a stretch of open highway, your cozy pillow ( I love my pillow), kissing the lips of someone you love.

Life can feel like a “whack-a-mole game” with crazy, unpleasant circumstances popping up in unexpected places. You can still be happy, and you can still whack those things with a big smile on your face😁.

If where you’re at now is hard, find joy in knowing these challenging days will be behind you one day. You’ll look back on your struggle and be proud that you were strong and got through it.

When I look back over my life, its not the stuff or the pay cheques that brought me joy, it’s simple pleasures and precious moments that have always lifted me up.

You have more power over your current situation than perhaps you realize. Use this power to grow into the best version of yourself by following your joy.

Wishing you a happy, zenny, joyful, sunshine and lollipops kind of day☀️🍭 🤗

Love Toni ~ 🌹❤️