By Toni O’Keeffe
February 13, 2020
Valentines day brings with it warm thoughts of romantic love, candy hearts, bouquets of roses tied up with lace, softly lite restaurants filled with couples sipping champagne and nibbling chocolate dipped strawberries off the tips of each other’s fingers.
While this might describe the Hallmark ideal of a perfect valentine’s day, most of us will not experience it this way – at all.
Some will dart to the drug store on the way home from the office in hopes of finding a card with something that “adequately” describes how they feel about their beloved partner. They might also pick up a couple scratch and win tickets and a bag of liquorice(because all the chocolate is gone) to add weight to their claim that some thought went in to expressing their feelings on this, “the day of love”
Some will spend all day preparing oysters and braised Lamb Shanks from “the Seduction Cookbook”, set their table with the best china, red linen and light the cinnamon candles they got last Christmas in hopes of re-igniting a spark that will lead to a romantic tryst with the one they love.
Others, okay moi, will sit at home, curled up with our favorite pets, watching hallmark movies and eating frozen pizza or tuna out of a can. And, I’m okay with that.
Regardless of how you spend your Valentine’s Day, my wish for you is that you do reflect on love. Not just romantic love, but a love for all things and all people, a love that is kind, authentic, brings you joy and extends beyond a single day each year.
I wish you a love that allows you to feel safe and secure in who you are and inspires you to grow into the best version of yourself. A love that celebrates soul-to-soul connections with no expectations only an enduring appreciation, acceptance, respect and admiration for the beautiful, perfect and unique soul that you are.
If you have found the one that sets your heart on fire, makes butterflies dance in your chest and stars shine in your eyes, hold them close and give thanks for the gift of this love every single day.
For those still in search of an epic love, I hope you find the kindred flame, the one that will settle your soul, captivate your mind, make your body tingle and your heart sing.
Most of all, I wish you a love of self, where you see yourself as worthy and deserving of all that is beautiful and good. A love that allows you to be kind and gentle with your heart and spirit as you fully surrender to this amazing journey of life that you are on. Yes, that’s the kind of love I wish you – not just today or on Valentines day, but every day.
Alright I’ve got big decisions to make.
Tuna? Pizza? Hmm, Pizza with tuna?
Happy Valentines Day