Category: Love and relationships

No one has broken my heart more than I have.

by The Whimsey Angel, posted in healing, life challenges, Life Journey, Love and relationships, Reflection, self discovery, Spiritual, Uncategorized

No one has broken my heart more than I have.

It’s our own expectation of others that let us down and break our hearts.

If you expect another person to;

~ heal the pain from your past…

~ make you happy…

~ make you feel whole or “complete you”…

~ change for you…

~ be a mind reader, and understand what you need…

….you’ll be disappointed.

Only you can heal your heart, make yourself happy, and heal the parts of you that have been bruised. And, you have an amazing capacity to do just that.

Once you realize that everything you need to heal your broken heart is inside you and not inside someone else, everything changes.

Toni O’K~🌹❤️

Looks can be deceiving

by The Whimsey Angel, posted in healing, life challenges, Life Journey, Love and relationships, Reflection, self discovery, Spiritual, Uncategorized

Looks can be deceiving,

Words can be misleading,

Deeds can be self-serving.

True Beauty should not be defined

by how we look, how we dress ourselves

or what we say.

Beauty is found in;

Our acts of kindness,

Our acts of love and

Our acts of humanity.

Beauty is found in the heart and soul, not on the body💕

~ Toni O’Keeffe🌹❤️

Sometimes you just have to float

by The Whimsey Angel, posted in grief, healing, life challenges, Life Journey, Love and relationships, nature, Reflection, self discovery, Spiritual, Uncategorized

We’re told to go out and chase our dreams.

We’re also told NOT to chase who or what we desire but to trust that the universe will provide.

So, which is it? Do you wait for your ship to come in? or, do you swim out to it?

I think the answer is, both.

Most of the time we have to trust our instinct and chase the things we desire or the goals we want to attain.

Then, there are times in life when we feel lost, weak, have a cluttered mind or a spirit that is not at peace. Its at these times that we have to surrender and trust that the universe will take over and guide us.

We are the pilots of our journey, but sometimes we need to flip the auto pilot switch and trust that we’re going to land where we’re supposed to.

We don’t wake up and think “gee, I have to pump my heart, or move the blood through my veins or breath air into my lungs,” we trust these things are going to happens – and, they do.

So, swim out to your ship. If you lose your way in the swell or the elements become too much to bear, lay back, float and trust that the current will carry you to where you’re meant to go.

Toni O’K~🌹❤️

WHATEVER YOU NEED TODAY “BE” THAT

by The Whimsey Angel, posted in grief, healing, life challenges, Life Journey, Love and relationships, Reflection, self discovery, Spiritual, Uncategorized

WHATEVER YOU NEED TODAY

“BE” THAT

The thing you’re searching for?

Stop searching for it and BE it.

Give away the thing you seek.

If your searching for happiness, BE happy.

If your searching for love, BE loving.

If you seek abundance, be generous.

If you need comfort, be a comfort to someone who’s hurting,

If you seek kindness and compassion, be kind and compassionate.

If its meant for you, it’s in you to give.

The most unexpected treasures reveal themselves not when we’re looking, but when we’re BE’ing.

BE what you need

Toni O’K~🌹❤️

Today, the page is clean

by The Whimsey Angel, posted in grief, healing, life challenges, Life Journey, Love and relationships, Reflection, self discovery, Spiritual, Uncategorized

Yesterday’s page may have been a disaster,

but today the page is blank,

It’s clean, its filled with possibilities.

You have the experience from all of your yesterdays to draw on.

Every single day we have the opportunity to;

be better,

to be more,

to be less,

to be whatever we want to be.

As some things end,

new things will begin.

Perhaps it’s time to write the end of this chapter,

turn the page and start a new one.

You’re holding the pen.

Go write yourself a beautiful life❤️

Toni O’K ~🌹❤️

Life Warriors

by The Whimsey Angel, posted in grief, healing, life challenges, Life Journey, Love and relationships, Reflection, self discovery, Spiritual, Uncategorized

There are those that blazes lonely trails through grief, heartache and physical pain so they can be there to comfort and understand us when it’s our time to walk the same path.

Be grateful for these compassionate life warriors when they show up for you.

They’ve been where you are.

They healed

So will you.

Toni O’K~ 🌹❤️

Growing on 60

by The Whimsey Angel, posted in healing, life challenges, Life Journey, Love and relationships, nature, Reflection, self discovery, Spiritual, Uncategorized

“Growing” on 60

As I approach the sweet, sage, spectacular age of 60 next month, I feel I’m hitting my spiritual, physical and mental stride and life is good. The journey ahead will be oh so sweet as I call on the lessons and wisdom from the past six decades to guide me.

The older I get the more comfortably I melt into living my authentic life. A life that is calm, brings me joy and settles my soul. A life where I find joy and inspiration in the smallest, oddest and most beautiful of places and people.

I am definitely not the woman I was at 30, 40 or 50. I’ve grown into someone better.

I’m grateful that I’ve landed at this place and no longer feel that I have to be more of anything or less of anything, all I have to do is show up to life and be me.

To the woman, especially the young woman, in my life, growing well is a gift you give yourself. A gift you should look forward to. Being female is not about duck lips, thick eye brows and push up bras. Being a strong woman is about being confident, truthful, having integrity, lifting other women up not tearing them down, maintaining a youthful heart and a healthy mind, body and spirit. It’s also about letting go of pain, people, beliefs and attitudes that no longer serve you.

We can all “grow well”, despite our pain, our losses, our life circumstances and our age. The key is literally “all in your head.” Our attitudes about our physical and mental state dictate what our lives look like now and in the future. It doesn’t matter what yesterday looked liked, tomorrow can be different.

Me, I will continue to grow well. I will wander, I will ponder and I will dance under the stars (or in my kitchen) either alone or with those that dance to the same beat. I will keep furry friends by my side as they are the best therapy. If and when I feel lost, I will wander away from the flock towards the quiet of the rain forest or meander along the ocean shore lines that kiss the edge of our wild, windy, wet, west coast. Nature is my temple.

Some of you will continue to travel this journey with me, and I look forward to whatever mischief we get into along the way. To others, I will say thank you and goodbye, you’ve been a beautiful teacher.

Here’s hoping we all grow well.

60, I embrace you, let’s do it, let’s do all of it!

Crap I think I just put my back out typing that last exclamation mark 😁.

Grow well my friends, GROW well.

Love Toni

Theres still so much ahead

by The Whimsey Angel, posted in life challenges, Life Journey, Love and relationships, Reflection, self discovery, Spiritual, Uncategorized

We’re supposed to out grow certain things, certain people, certain behaviours and move on.

If growth wasn’t part of the plan we’d still be living in caves.

We’re meant to be curious, to explore and grow.

So leave your storms behind, you’ve already weathered them, stop reliving them day-after-day.

Unpack what’s holding you back, give thanks that it (or they) got you this far, leave it behind and move on.

Theres still so much ahead

to do,

to be,

to love.

Are you enough?

by The Whimsey Angel, posted in life challenges, Life Journey, Love and relationships, Reflection, self discovery, Spiritual, Uncategorized

We often judge ourselves for not being enough. But enough “what” exactly?

I’ve had relationships end and wondered why I wasn’t good enough, smart enough, beautiful enough.

I’ve held positions where I left my blood, sweat, tears, time, heart and soul on the floor and still I felt it wasn’t enough.

As a young mom I did everything I thought I could for my children and still I felt I was not enough, not there enough, not supportive enough, did not give enough.

Here’s what I know now. I was enough.

I have always been enough, of me.

You have always been enough, of you.

No-one can make us me feel less than we are, we do that to ourselves.

My broken relationships had nothing to do with either of us not being enough. These relationships ended because we were not compatible and had different expectations.

I have enjoyed a wonderful career and I obviously was enough to have been given the opportunities I had and still have.

My children never asked me to be more, I just thought I should have been, I was wrong. All they wanted from me, was me.

Recognizing that you are enough should not stop you from challenging yourself to be more, in fact it should excite and inspire you to be the best version of yourself. Once we let go of the idea that we are here to please and be accepted by others we set ourselves free to be “ourselves”.

If someone hurts you, leaves you, judges you, does not agree with you, it’s okay, that’s about them, not you. Not everyone will love or even like you, they don’t have to and you don’t have to care.

We’re not built to be compatible with everyone. How boring would that be?

Stop worrying about whether you’re enough. You were born with enough of everything you need to grow into you.

Your expectations of yourself are the only expectations that matter. And that my dear, makes you perfectly enough of you.❤️

OK, enough of that 😉.

Toni O’K~🌹❤️