Now is the time to exhale, to unpack everything and surrender to something new. To sail into a life of grace guided by the things that sing from your heart and are craved by your soul. It’s time to anchor your dreams to the warmth of the harbour waiting to welcome you home. Toni O’K~🌹❤️
If YOU are still waiting for your “One Day”, this is for you❤️ I hope one day, everything appears different, brighter and better for you. That the gentle whisper of your own voice greets you with love, replacing the harsh voice of criticism that has been by your side for too long. That you are guided by your deepest wisdom and an inner peace that allows you to let your walls down and let your beautiful light shine. Love Toni💕
For most of my life there has been a steady flow of thoughts, ideas and words that trickle through my mind and pour into a well of inspiration that fuels me. These past several weeks, the well has run dry. Like the rest of the world my mind has become still. I’m learning to embrace the stillness. It’s in stillness beneath the earth and below calm waters that beautiful things are planted and take root. It’s in stillness that our bodies, minds and souls are renewed. It’s in stillness that the planet will heal. Welcome the stillness, the solitary confinement, the peacefulness and calm. Enjoy it knowing when we emerge beautiful things will bloom in us and in the world. Until then, I will be still ~
This global pandemic has given us the opportunity to sit in silence and observe, really observed, how we and the rest of the world live.
One of my greatest observations is that we all have it in us to give more and be more. More loving, more kind and more compassionate towards each other and the planet.
At the same time we have it in us to be less. Less busy, less stressed, live with less, be less judgemental and less offended by every little damn thing.
I’ve learnt that time spent alone is good. It’s in this alone time that we can listen to the inner wisdom that’s always trying to get our attention. We need to teach our children how to be still and tap into their own inner wisdom.
I’ve learnt that I’m grateful for the non-monetary, simple things in life like walks, sunsets, the people I love, great conversations, cinnamon buns, laughter, friendship, my health and my puppy who really is my whacky best friend.
During these past few month we’ve seen the necessity of creating locally focused economies. Relying on products and services from around the globe is determental to our health, our economy and the planet. Look how quickly Canadian companies rallied and employed ingenuity to refit their facilities and address this pandemic and our need for protective equipment, ventilators, hand sanitizer and food.
We are learning that we can achieve a better work life balance by implementing different ways to work, learn and play. Technology allows us this flexibility. When the world regulates our new collective heartbeat, I hope people will still employ these practices.
The way we treat other living beings has to change. The lives of animals that are confined to small spaces and cages in wet markets, entertainment facilities, meat farms and research labs, are horrible. Because we have the power to cause them pain doesn’t mean we should. If we believe we are of a higher intelligence then, we should act like it.
It is our own poor treatment of other living species that led us to this pandemonium ~ and isn’t that a major bitch slap to all of us from lady Karma.
We are all connected. Anyone that hasn’t figure that out during all this, is not of this earth.
During isolation I’ve pondered the notion that we elevate and worship false idols like movie stars, reality TV personalities, pro-athletes Youtubers, Instagram influencers, models and race car drivers. Yet, none if these idols were able to get us through this.
The real hero’s, the ones worthy of our idolizations, are the ones we often take for granted. The ones that keep our lives running every day; the healthcare workers, emergency responders, the builders, postal workers, the transportation, warehouse and retailers workers, scientists, the teachers and child care workers that nurture young minds AND most importantly farmers❤️ These are the people worthy of our idolization.
On a global level we must elect leaders not based on the size of their wallet, the size of their ego or the empires they have built. Our global leaders must possess authentic concern for people and the earth. On that note, as I bare witness to the chaos in other parts of the world and even on this continent, I have never been more grateful to be Canadian🇨🇦.
We are merely visitors on this little blue ball spinning through space. We can be evicted at any moment. Mother earth gives us everything we need, she takes nothing from us. Yet, we take everything from her. The way we are living and treating her is not sustainable. The planet will survive without us. We will not survive without her.
We must act together to be kinder to the earth. We need to allow her to heal, to breath to live, so we can heal, breath and live, it really is that simple.
We have no more excuses. We have proven we can change. We have proven we can be more and use less. NO MORE excuses!
The world will not be the same after this and hope it’s NOT.
When we emerge from the warmth of our cocoons, I hope we have shed old patterns of behaviour and grown into something better, bolder and much more beautiful and peaceful 🦋.
I am amazed at how immature I have become during this global pandemic. I’ve been spending my days eating snacks, playing dress up with my dog, laughing at a litany of silly dog videos, lounging in the same clothes for days, watching way too much TV, FaceTiming girlfriends and laughing about the most ridiculous things. I’ve become the sloppy 12 year old kid I used to yell at to go clean “his” room on a Saturday afternoon. Does this mean that I think this pandemic is a joke? Absolutely not. On the inside, I have never been so scared for humanity. On the days I have to go out without a mask, without gloves, without hand sanitizer to pick up medications and supplies for my mom, I’ve been scared. As I stand in ridiculously long (but very quiet) lineups, I’m worried someone is going to cough or sneeze on me, it’s all a bit surreal.
I’m grateful to those that go into the world to work every day putting themselves at risk so we can get groceries, medications and supplies. I’m equally thankful to the ones taking care of our most vulnerable citizens, including those taking care of my my Mom. And, my niece Shannon who’s taking care the children at her childcare centre and my neice Moira who is taking care of the employees on her construction site as their safety officer.
As I watch the news, my thoughts and heart are always with my colleagues, family and friends in the healthcare system that are working hard and diligently to get us through this. I’m scared for them and their families. I have silently prayed for their well being and wept for the fear I know they face every day. For many of us, being silly and seeking out humour, even craving it, is a coping mechanism. It’s what we have to do. A study done at Stanford university shows that humour is a more effective coping strategy than being solemn or sad. Projecting humor is healthier than cynicism, as cynicism can lead to depression and weakness or entire immune system.
To those that get offended by the silliness and nonsense showing up on your news feed, now is a good time to get over it and try to understand it.
To those craving humour right now, know that your desire to seek out the silly, the nonsensical or the hilarious during such a difficult time is normal and healthy for your mind, body and soul.
Laughter is like a lantern, it doesn’t eliminate the darkness, it gets us through it. If we can find the light, the laughter, the love and the patience, during difficult times, we are heading in the right direction.
So here we are, living in times that resemble the script for a Hollywood blockbuster movie that no one ever dreamt could come to life. Tom Hanks even had a supporting role.
Mother Nature wants her planet back and perhaps Covid19 is a call-to-action from her to us.
As Covid19 slaps the “Sorry we’re closed” sign across the globe, and we lock down, shut down, self isolate and socially distance ourselves from one another, families are gathering around the kitchen table (some for the first time in awhile) to sort out, what’s next?
We’re being forced to rethinking how and where we live, learn, work, play and, how we take care of one another and the planet (which BTW is our only home).
Before Covid19 stormed onto the scene, humanity couldn’t get our environmental act together. Despite a huge global outcry to address climate change and poor environmental performance, very little has changed. So mother nature has stepped in to take over. World leaders could never have mobilized to bring the world together and clean up the way this virus has.
As factories, industry and businesses shut down and people stay off the roads, out of the sky, off the rails(no pun intended), off the seas, and toxins are removed from the air, we see blue skies emerging over parts of the world that haven’t seen blue sky for decades.
As people stay home, out of stadiums, arenas, bars, restaurants and retail outlets, we are consuming less, buying less and discarding less. While the pandemic is making human beings sick, it is giving the planet a chance to heal.
Although early behaviours of hoarding and price gouging surfaced, global citizens quickly reacted with outrage and pushed back. We are starting to take care of one another in ways that perhaps we don’t always do. We are checking in on our vulnerable family members, friends and neighbours. Families are reconnecting. Parents are off their work phones and playing with their children, and as we saw in Italy, Spain and Amsterdam, people are making beautiful music together.
During this crisis people are figuring out how to work and learn from home. Employers are becoming more flexible and retailers are rethinking their supply chains, especially international supply chains. Imagine how we could reduced our environmental footprint if we kept some of these practices in place after Covid19 moves on?
A post I read earlier this week talked about this being a time to pause and reset. I agree. This is a time for business, industry, governments, families and citizens to do things differently.
Unfortunately there has been loss of life resulting from Covid19 and my heart aches for those families. I know the anguish of that loss and its horrible. Others have lost income, work, time in the classroom, surgeries have been cancelled. It’s been hard.
There has also been beautiful acts of grace and a commitment to one another. The efforts of our healthcare system have been extraordinary. Those involved in transporting goods and services, and those involved in our food chain supply are hero’s. There are teachers doing online tutorials for students while schools are closed. Arts, cultural and entertainment venues are streaming plays, performances and concerts for free to keep people occupied during this crisis.
These acts are positive signs that as a human race we have it in us to be kind, compassionate and loving to each other. At our core this is who we are. Somewhere along the path of human evolution in the busyness of being human, we lost our way, this is an opportunity to find ourselves again.
There is now a generation of children that are bearing witnessed to and will remember what happened during Covid19. As they grow into our worlds leaders, CEOs of large corporations, healthcare professionals, teachers and others, they will remember these days. They will develop practices and learning to mitigate events like this in the future. They will remember how problems were solved and solved quickly.
Maybe a pandemic was what the world needed, to slow us down, to bring us to our knee, to allow us to look at ourselves differently and evaluate how and where we live, learn, work, play and protect our planet.
Out of the darkness comes light. And I believe there will be an explosion of light at the end of this pandemic. We’re already beginning to see it shine. Toni O’K ~🌹❤️
Do you want to heal the world? Here’s what you can do. ~ Take care of and love yourselves before all else. This includes feeding your mind, body and soul the things that make you physically, mentally and spiritually healthy and strong. ~ Take care of your tribe ~ the ones you love and the ones who can not take care of themselves. ~ Adopt a mindset of positivity, kindness and compassion towards all people, animals and our planet. That’s it. It really is that simple.
If we all did this, it would be a global game changer. We and the planet would heal❤️
Our souls do not arrive on earth with titles, tags or associations. We do not arrive as Catholic, Protestant, Hindu, Muslim, Sikh, Jewish or atheist.
These “words” are most often painted on us the moment we’re born.
We do not arrive with ideals about liberalism, conservatism or socialism, we adopt these ideals from the elders around us.
Our souls have no race, no colour, no gender, no social status or financial portfolio, we show up as pure love and all we know is love and trust, that’s it.
Then based on the family and community we’re born into, additional layers of judgement and belief are painted on us.
We passively accept these belief systems and obey the “agreed to norms” despite what our soul feels is right.
These judgements and beliefs create the illusion that we are separate from some and united with others. These judgements are the root of most of the world’s conflict.
The truth is, we’re not separate, we are apart of the same family and race. The human race.
You can wash away those “ words” and layers of judgement that have been painted on you at any time.
When little people come into our lives and ask “what are we or what am I” (often referring to religion and race) tell them they are kindness, compassion and LOVE. Let them know they are a part of one big human family. Then tell them about their religious and ethnic origins within that great big beautiful family. Over time let them decide how they “paint” themselves.
At our very core, the thing we all come into the world as and with is LOVE. Be that, that’s who you really are. Paint love across your life and see what follows.
Love Toni ~🌹❤️
PS; Now before the grammar police swoop in, LOVE is both a noun and a verb in my whimsey little world~ ‘cause that’s how I roll.
It’s easy to loose track of the beautiful and magnificent little things that keep our lives grounded. Things like; ~ Having a conversation with an enlightened four year old, ~ Melting into the arms of the one you love, ~ Your child or grandchild reaching up to hold your hand, ~ Wandering through a flower garden, ~ Sunrises, sunsets and starry nights, ~ The sound of raindrops lulling you to sleep, ~ The first bite of you favourite dessert, ~ Time spent with people that are good for your soul, ~ Sipping a great cup of coffee, next to the ocean, as the sound of waves wash your worries away, ~ Smiling at a stranger and watching them smile back at you, ~ Unplanned moments that become beautiful memories, ~ Popcorn, your favourite movie and no interruptions, ~ Rays of sunlight that illuminate the spaces between the trees in a forest, ~ Furry friends that like to snuggle as much as you do, ~ Laughing, ~ The crackle and smell of a camp fire. ~ Falling asleep knowing you and your family are well and safe.
When the big things in life become too big and the busyness of your days is overwhelming, anchor your heart and focus your thoughts on the little things. After all, these are the things that matter, the things that bring us joy and give this human adventure purpose and bring our lives to life💕.
I hope you can arrive at a place one day where you will forgive everyone that has ever caused you pain. That you stop plotting revenge and stop asking why things and people hurt you. How people treat us is never about us, it’s almost always about them and their own pain. It doesn’t matter what people have done to you in the past, it’s how you choose to embed the lessons they brought you in the present. ~ xo Toni O’K~ 🌹❤️