Where do you belong?

The day may come when the people, things and habits you’re used to, no longer fit or feel like you. You may feel stuck, trapped or craving more.

Every once in a while, this is exactly how we’re supposed to feel. It’s this feeling that moves us to let go of what no longer belongs and make a change.

Human beings are weird little creatures. We stay in uncomfortable relationships, uncomfortable situations, uncomfortable jobs, uncomfortable communities, uncomfortable shoes and uncomfortable behaviours and habits because they’re familiar, or sometimes they’re “ALL”, we know.

Questions you can ask yourself to help you move forward.
~ Am I happy?
~ If I had one year to live, what would I do with that year?
~ If I had to let three things go in my life, what would they be?
~ Whats the greatest barrier blocking me from moving forward? And, what’s the one thing I can do to move beyond it?

Don’t waste your one beautiful life and your curious mind, feeling caged in. The place that feels familiar, may not be the place you belong.

Toni O’KEEFFE ~🌹❤️

There’s a reason ~

There’s a reason we come in and out of each others lives.

Even if what you shared together was hard, or, you had to say goodbye, there were important lesson’s for both of you.

Be grateful for the ones who show up in your life. Even if it was painful, there was purpose.

Toni O’KEEFFE 🌹❤️

We need the struggle ~

We need the struggle.

An acorn needs the struggle from the deep earth into the light to establish its roots.

The butterfly needs the struggle from the cocoon into the world to push blood into its wings, so it can fly.

A baby turtle needs the struggle from the nest across the sand, to fire up its leg muscles so it can swim.

Our human struggles are necessary. They help us plant our roots, exercise our endurance and help us grow.

Without the struggle many things, including us, would never grow.

Toni O’KEEFFE🌹❤️

This dance called life

From the day we’re born, we’re programmed to, two-step, side-step, hop, skip, jump, twist, twirl and boogie, between the demands and expectations of family, school, career, relationships, society, our human emotions, our quest for happiness and ultimately “our purpose.” It’s quite the dance.

The music is continually playing and changing. We bump into others, trying not to step on toes. We slip, fall, break a heal, or break a leg. Some days we dance alone but still, we dance.

And even though we all have different dance moves, different tastes in music, wear different colours to the dance and none of us knows when this life ballet will end, we still have to show up, get along and dance whether we want to or not.

So what’s the point of this little song and dance? It’s this; ~ Life IS the dance.

Our purpose is to make the most of every step, every misstep, every song, every partner, every blister, every moment, every “thing”.

No matter how well you dance, what songs you dance to, how fast or slow, you move, who you dance with, how often you change partners or if you dance alone, find the music that’s in harmony with YOU and tap, waltz, jig, jive, polka, salsa, hip-hop, twirl, tango, do-si-do, or plié and enjoy the insanely beautiful rhythm of it all.

Regardless of who you are, what you do, how much money you have, who you voted for or who you worship, we’ll all get sore feet, the shoes will come off and the music will stop, for all of us.

So while you’re here, get those moves on
and, enjoy the dance.

Toni O’KEEFFE 🌹❤️

Put it all down

This might be a good day to put it all down.

If you’re carrying the weight of the past,

you’re not living fully in the present.

Whatever he, she or they, did or said to you, let it go. You are NOT the pain or burdens others placed upon you. Nor are you the opinions anyone has of you.

Put it down. Put it all down.

This weight is no longer yours to carry.

Some of it was NEVER yours to carry.

Toni O’KEEFFE ~🌹❤️

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~ Happiness is YOU!

It’s ;

~ YOU not judging and comparing yourselves to others and you accept yourselves as YOU are.

YOU seeing and appreciating the blessings (big and small) all around YOU.

YOU realizing happiness does not come from stuff, but from the attitude we (YOU) have about life.

YOU making the choice to be happy.

Happiness isn’t something we look for. Happiness is YOU.

Toni O’KEEFFE ~🌹❤️

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A wise soul will exercise curiosity

before judgement, ask questions

before criticizing, and attempt

to understand before making assumptions.

We all have it in us

to be wise, funky,

beautiful souls.

So let’s be funky!

Toni O’KEEFFE ~🌹❤️

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That emptiness you sometimes feel?

Perhaps it’s your soul creating space for;

new things,

new ideas,

new adventures,

new people,

to arrive.

This emptiness may feel like loneliness, sadness, a sense of wanting, or disappointment.

Don’t try and fill the emptiness, sit with it, feel it. Then invite it to leave. Use this feeling as an opportunity to open your heart, your mind to receiving something new.

There’s a season for all things and all people, to come in and out of our lives.

Let them come, and,

Let them go.

Toni O’KEEFFE ~🌹❤️

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In the

right light,

even the

darkest of

storms cast

a beautiful

light.

No matter what

you’re going through,

there’s light

behind this storm.

Toni O’KEEFFE ~🌹❤️

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We miss so much

as we rush through life.

If you knew

everything you

love today, would

be gone tomorrow,

including your family,

friends, your stuff,

your home, your pets,

would you slow down and

live differently?

would you look

at the world differently?

would you act differently?

It all will be gone, all of it,

love it all exactly like that.

Toni O’KEEFFE ~🌹❤️

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“Thank you for the good times, the bad times and the learning and growing we did together. I’m wiser, stronger and kinder because I had this time with you.”

Let these be your parting words as you walk away from ANY personal, professional or intimate relationship that’s come to an end.

If they you hurt you, let you down, caused you pain ~ forgive them. Learn from it.

The hate, disappointment, anger, fear, or regret you carry, feeds your pain, not theirs.

Walk away with a grateful heart knowing you’re wiser, stronger and kinder because of the time you spent together.

Even if it was painful, be grateful that this lesson is over.

Toni O’KEEFFE ~🌹❤️

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Life will hurt.

Nature will heal.

If you want

to hurt less,

you know

where to go.

Toni O’KEEFFE ~🌹❤️

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Look at you,

enjoying life,

finding joy,

laughing, spending

time with people

who lift you up,

loving yourself,

letting go

of all that

toxic stuff.

Way to go!!!

Oh, this isn’t you?

Why not?

Toni O’KEEFFE ~🌹❤️

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Pain has purpose.

let it hurt,

let it heal

then,

let it go.

Toni O’KEEFFE ~🌹❤️

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At any moment,

in any day,

you can stop,

and decide to

do things differently.

to live differently,

to love differently,

to care for yourself

or others

differently.

You have more

control over this

grand adventure

than you realize.

Toni O’KEEFFE ~🌹❤️

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Want to heal

the heart,

the mind,

the body,

the soul.

slow your pace,

slow your breath,

Step into nature

Toni O’KEEFFE ~🌹❤️

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Don’t waste your energy creating anger, hate, doubt, jealousy,disappointment, physical pain

Use it to create warmth, kindness, tolerance, self love

You can move mountains

When I was a child and became overwhelmed with any large task or homework assignment, my father would say “pull one weed at a time.” He was referring to his approach to weeding the garden.
If he looked at all the weeding to be done as one large task, it would’ve been overwhelming and never gotten done, so he approached it one weed at a time.

Fast forward to today, I was out walking and came across two young men standing in front of an enormous mountain of rocks.
I stopped to chat as they Ooh’d and awed over my little dog and I asked them what they were doing.
They were building a stone wall.
The rock for the wall had been delivered, but had been dumped in the wrong spot, now they had to move it.
One of the young men jokingly asked me if I knew how to move a mountain?
“Yup” I said, “one weed at a time.”
They were both confused, so I explained the analogy and they got it.

Whatever lies before you, take it one minute, one hour, one step, one day, one page, one breath or one weed at a time.
In fact, you can move mountains,
when you move them, one stone at a time.

Toni O’KEEFFE ~🌹❤️

Get Messy~

In the end, nothing will hurt
more than;
~ the paths not taken,
~ words not spoken,
~ wounds that didn’t heal,
~ moments lost,
~ joy never found,
~ a life not lived.

We’re here to take a few chances, have a colourful adventure or two, learn about ourselves, the planet and everything around us. To fully feel the highs and lows of this unique human journey. Don’t waste it. Be brave, bold, and curious as you own this thing called life!!

Yup you’ll make mistakes, you’re supposed to. You’ll get hurt, don’t let that stop you. You’ll get knocked down, eventually you’ll get back up and, you’ll get messy, oh well 🤷🏻‍♀️.

Be fearless, have fun and laugh till it hurts. Everyone of us is a student of life, and everyone of us will mess up, so, forgive those who hurt you, forgive yourself for the times you’ve been less then perfect. Face your fears with all the courage you can muster.

When you exit this ride, I hope your hair is a mess, your knees are wobbly, you’ve lost your hat, the wind has kissed your face so many times your cheeks are raw and, your final thought is “wow, that was amazing, absolutely frickin’ amazing, let’s do it again.”

Toni O’KEEFFE ~🌹❤️

You can get unstuck~

The day may come when the people, things and habits you’re used to, no longer fit or feel like you. Embrace the calling to let these things go and move on.

We’re not meant to stay stuck in the same place or the same mindset.

When water stops flowing it can become stagnate, foul, murky and toxic. If we stay stuck in the same place or mind set for too long, we can also become stagnant, foul, murky and toxic.

Our minds are meant to be exercised and fed. When we’re not grazing on new knowledge, new vistas, new opportunities or new adventures, we can get stuck.

We’re meant to flow, to move forward, to have new experiences, learn new things, challenge our own thinking, and grow.

Change can feel overwhelming and it might feel easier to stay in the box we know. Human beings do this all the time. We stay in uncomfortable relationships, uncomfortable situations, uncomfortable jobs, uncomfortable communities, uncomfortable shoes and uncomfortable behaviours and habits that add little joy to ours lives, because it’s familiar, it’s what, or sometimes “ALL”, we know.

But, once you rise, step out of your comfort zone, stretch your enthusiasm, move beyond your fear and shake off the old, you’re ready to take on the new.

Don’t waste your one beautiful life and your curious and hungry mind, remaining stuck in one place. The place that feels familiar may not be the place you belong.
Toni O’KEEFFE ~🌹❤️

***If you need help getting unstuck, reach out for support🙏🤗