Whatever it is;
a decision,
a material item,
a person,
even a job,
If it does not bring you peace or bring you joy,
then it’s not meant for you.
Let Go.
Toni O’K~🌹❤️
Category: Reflection
BE with Love
BE with Love❤️
Can we all stop fighting for love and just BE with Love? Even the term “Fight For Love” is hostile and a bit of an oxymoron.
Back in the days of our Neanderthal ancestors there was some fighting, hair pulling and a bit of clubbing (different than the type of clubbing that goes on these days to find a mate), but people, we have evolved, or have we?
Divorce rates for first time marriages in North America hover around 40% and second time marriage divorce rates are at 60%. I believe this is related to the false and unsustainable fronts some people create until that little gold (or I guess these days platinum) band is wrapped around their finger.
When we allow ourselves to BE with love, it means we are BEING our authentic self. We are BEING real about who we are, what our flaws and phobias are and BEING who we are meant to be. It means both partners are BEING clear about what they want their lives to look like, so they’re not trying to change each other after they’re well into a relationship.
When we approach love this way the right people will be drawn to us. If someone wants to be in your life based on who you really are, they will show up for you. If they are not interested, they are not meant for you. It should be simple; be honest about who you are and let people fall in love with the real you, not a manufacturer version of you.
If you have to fight, stalk, manipulate, or tolerate unhealthy behaviours, that’s not love.
So can we please stop encouraging people (especially young people) to fight for love, or to conspire to find love. We might be telling them to chase or fight for things and people not meant for them.
Encourage them to BE with love, to be patient with love, to be themselves, and if they need to work on themselves first encourage them to do that before they partner up.
My god the entire world seems to be fighting for something; for peace, for power, for human dignity, for control, the last thing we need to fight for is love.
Sending you warm wishes for a beautiful day, May you BE with Love with the one you Love💕
Toni O’K~🌹❤️
None of us are doing this alone
Sweet beautiful soul, you were not dropped on to a planet with 7.5 billion other souls to go it alone.
I know there are days when you feel lost.
Days you just want somebody to show up for you. Days you just wish you could turn to someone and say “Can you take over and take care of me today because I can’t do this right now.”
However, it’s not always in our best interest if someone flys in and saves the day.
There are critical times in our lives when we have to walk our path alone. These are the times we do our greatest learning. The struggle is necessary and is part of our growth and survival. Being alone can be healthy and good, it’s during these times that we sort ourselves out.
Sometimes (not always) the most loving thing family and friends can do is allow us to struggle alone, to live our learning so we can survive. And that’s where you’re NOT ALONE. We ALL go through periods in life when being alone with our pain is necessary.
When you think you’re alone, stop thinking and remember this, you are “alone” with 7.5 billion people all going through their own struggle. We all have to learn how to walk or we fall, swim or we sink, get burnt so we don’t get burnt again.
There is light beyond your pain and beyond the light is a tribe waiting to welcome you back.
We’re part of the same family, the same tribe, all 7.5 billion of us. None of us are doing this alone.
TO’K~ 🌹 ❤️
What are you filling up on?
For most of our adult lives we attempt to balance two cups.
The first cup holds our fear, worry, regret, resentment, disappointment, expectations of others, anger and jealousy.
This toxic first cup is always overflowing. We carefully carry this poisonous cup around trying not to spill it. In fact, we often keep a lid on that cup thats so tight nothing gets out, creating a pressure cooker on the verge of an explosion.
The second cup holds our joy, happiness, love, compassion and kindness. It never seems full enough. We’re always seeking to add more to the second cup while at the same time carrying the weight and stress of the first cup around.
Guess what? You’re allowed to dump everything, absolutely everything, from the first cup and leave it behind.
You don’t have to carry the cup or it’s toxic contents any more, they add no value to your life.
With the contents of the first cup out of your way you’ll make room to bring more of whats good into your life.
When your happiness cup is full, pour some of what you have into the lives of those that need it the most.
We get to choose what we fill up on. Yet, we generally keep lugging that damn first cup around because we think that is what we’re supposed to do, its what we’ve learnt to do. But you don’t have to, you can put that first cup down, leaving all that it holds behind.
Toni O’Keeffe🌹❤️
24 hours gone every day
24 hours are taken from you every day
whether you use them or not.
Think about that, 24 hours gone, whether you use them or not.
Don’t wait;
– for more time,
– the next time,
– a better time,
– until you have the time,
– until they give you their time.
If those 24 hours were dollars, you’d find a way to spend them wisely.
What’s worthy of your time now?
Who’s worthy of your time now?
Use the time you’re given to enjoy this one precious life. Because beautiful soul, you’re not getting any more time.
TO’K~ 🌹❤️
Something amazing is waiting just beyond your pain.
Beneath the insecurities, self doubt, disappointment, fear, worry, heartache, sadness and below the thickness of your scars, an amazing and wise soul waits to guide you. Your soul holds the key to your healing and has the answers you seek.
Once you strip away the darkness of everything that’s holding you back, your light will shine and the path ahead will be clear.
Stop chasing, stop fighting, stop regretting, stop resisting.
Feel your pain, your loss, your grief, your confusion, your darkness, then let it go. These things are heavy and weight you down.
Surrender and trust that the flow of the universe has brought you on this journey for a reason. It’s time to move on. You will feel lighter, you will BE lighter once the shadows of your pain are gone.
Release everything that’s holding you back. When you do the universe will take you to wonderful people, adventures and places meant just for you.
Something amazing is waiting just beyond your pain.
TO’K~ 🌹❤️
The Sun shines for ALL of us,
The Sun shines for ALL of us,
She warms, heals and feeds us all.
She does not judge or discriminate.
She will shine for you no matter who you are, who you pray to, what you’ve done, what colour your skin is, how old or what gender you are,
She is the energy that sustains us, lights our path and lifts our spirits after life’s storms.
She’s always there.
Even after the darkest of days, she returns, in fact, she never left.
What if we lived like the sun and choose to brighten the path of everyone we met no matter who they are? Forgave and guided each other through life’s storms without judgement. Provided warmth and healing and became the light for those that can not find their own.
Let’s be like that, let’s be like the sun.
Toni O’Keeffe~🌹❤️
Hope, is born in the palm of your hands.
You don’t have to be religious or subscribe to any spiritual doctrine to reap the benefits of prayer.
Both science and religion agree that prayer works and can have positive benefits on both our mental and physical wellbeing.
When dark clouds move in over your life; pray to your angles, your guides, the universe, the sun, your favourite sports team, your idol, your inner goddess, your god or whoever you pray to and ask for answers.
Even if what you’re asking for seems out of reach, ask.
We find comfort and understanding when we sit quietly away from the chaos of the world with our palms together, our eyes closed and release our worries, talk to whom ever listens and ask for guidance, this is where hope is born.
Whether you call it pray, meditation, introspection, or pondering; taking time to stop, clear your mind and bring focus to resolving life’s challenges is good therapy and allows us to see things more clearly and deeply.
It’s when we are in state of prayer or meditation that the answers we seek often arrive.
Prayer may not deliver everything we’ve asked for, but, it does offer stillness and hope.
So, ladies and gentlemen, get quiet, and put your hands together for …..“YOU.”
Toni O’K ~🌹❤️
Life is messy,
Our journey to figure out who we are is messy.
Paint dripping on to a canvas…run-on sentences and misspelt words …..stacks of bricks and mortar….cake batter dripping off the end of a beater…a seedling stuck in the dirt…all these things are messy; until they’re worked, shaped, built, baked or grow into what they’re meant to be, e.g; a masterpiece, a best selling novel, a home, a cake, a rose.
Being human is supposed to be messy.
We don’t stop painting, writing, building, baking or planting because it’s messy, we keep going and growing until we get to where we’re meant to be.
My messy life has been my path. And although I haven’t always understood why certain things happened or where I was heading, my path has lead me to extraordinary people, colourful adventures and insightful self discovery. Our messy, unpredictable, multicoloured adventures are THE PATH and THE PATH IS your life
So hang in there, things are going to get messy, and messy ain’t bad.
Toni O’K~🌹❤️
You deserve to live in the real world.
As the sun rises over your day, you deserve the gift of time to observe and experience everything around you thats beautiful.
You deserve the gift of silence and serenity that’s found when you step into the natural world.
You deserve to inhale the sweet essence of ocean mist, forest foliage and rosebuds as they awaken your senses.
You deserve sunlight drenching you in warmth and bathing your mind, body and spirit in healing, brilliant light.
You deserve to walk barefoot on the sand allowing it to tickle your toes as the sound of waves roll in soothing every fibre of your being, bringing you to a state of calm.
You deserve to close your eyes and feel the wind kiss your face and blow through your hair as your entire body exhales, releasing your worries, your pain and your fears.
You deserve to lie down upon a carpet of soft, green moss and let your mind take flight as chickadees, sparrows and starlings dance in the sky and sing you their delight.
You deserve the stillness and tranquility that comes when you retreat and allow your spirit to breath and exhale.
As the sun sets on what has been a perfect day, you deserve to melt into the lap of Mother Nature, allowing her to caress your soul as you fall into a peaceful unencumbered slumber.
Every once and awhile, you deserve to press pause, unplug from the noise in your life and rekindle the romance between you and the “real” world.
Toni O’Keeffe ~ 🌹❤️
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