Before you decide to;
“put somebody in their place”
“show them the door”,
“read them the riot act”
“take them down”
“teach them a lesson”
“tear a strip off them”
“bully them”
or
“seek revenge”
…..ask yourself if that’s what they really need.
When people are struggling, trying to cope with the chaos and pain in their lives, they don’t need another storm, they need a lighthouse.
Be kind
Be compassionate
Be the lighthouse.
Wishing you a wonderful week ahead.
Toni O’KEEFFE 🌹❤️
Anything that’s ever been planted had to make its way through the dirt before it could bloom.
When life gets messy, you might actually be getting ready to bloom into something absolutely beautiful.
Embrace the messy parts of life.
Toni O’KEEFFE 🌹❤️
A broken heart is not always a bad thing~
We have to experience what love is “not” so we recognize authentic love when it arrives.
Those bad dates, heartaches, butterflies that turned into teary goodbyes, are stepping stones guiding you to whom and where you’re meant to be. Let them guide you, who knows, they may lead to your happily-ever-after.
Be grateful for everyone that wanders in and out of your life.
Toni O’KEEFFE 🌹❤️
When the darkness of unsettled days blocks your light, there’s always a sanctuary of infinite beauty waiting to embrace you and lift your spirit.
Go to the waters edge, breathe slowly and inhale the sweet, softness of the ocean and exhale the weight of the burdens you carry.
Find a mossy, tree lined forest path to lead you away from your busy days, far from whatever’s troubling you.
Retreat to a rocky bluff and let the setting sun melt your pain and relax your worries.
Gaze into the moonlight, allow its glow to warm you and hold your dreams until you’re ready to chase them again.
Before you return to the reality of your world, take a gratitude moment to relish in your own beauty and give thanks for the true miracle you are. Let go of all toxic ideas and reclaim the grace of everything beautiful that’s waiting for you.
No matter what’s blocking your path or causing you pain, nature provides the music, the colour, the awe, the sweet perfume of life and the quiet peaceful sanctuary to help you heal❤️
Toni O’KEEFFE 🌹❤️
Toni O’KEEFFE 🌹❤️
This might be a good day to put it all down.
If you’re carrying the weight of the past,
you’re not living fully in the present.
Whatever he, she or they, did or said to you, let it go. You are NOT the pain or burdens others placed upon you. Nor are you the opinions anyone has of you.
Put it down. Put it all down.
This weight is no longer yours to carry.
Some of it was NEVER yours to carry.
Toni O’KEEFFE ~🌹❤️
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~ Happiness is YOU!
It’s ;
~ YOU not judging and comparing yourselves to others and you accept yourselves as YOU are.
YOU seeing and appreciating the blessings (big and small) all around YOU.
YOU realizing happiness does not come from stuff, but from the attitude we (YOU) have about life.
YOU making the choice to be happy.
Happiness isn’t something we look for. Happiness is YOU.
Toni O’KEEFFE ~🌹❤️
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A wise soul will exercise curiosity
before judgement, ask questions
before criticizing, and attempt
to understand before making assumptions.
We all have it in us
to be wise, funky,
beautiful souls.
So let’s be funky!
Toni O’KEEFFE ~🌹❤️
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That emptiness you sometimes feel?
Perhaps it’s your soul creating space for;
new things,
new ideas,
new adventures,
new people,
to arrive.
This emptiness may feel like loneliness, sadness, a sense of wanting, or disappointment.
Don’t try and fill the emptiness, sit with it, feel it. Then invite it to leave. Use this feeling as an opportunity to open your heart, your mind to receiving something new.
There’s a season for all things and all people, to come in and out of our lives.
Let them come, and,
Let them go.
Toni O’KEEFFE ~🌹❤️
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In the
right light,
even the
darkest of
storms cast
a beautiful
light.
No matter what
you’re going through,
there’s light
behind this storm.
Toni O’KEEFFE ~🌹❤️
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We miss so much
as we rush through life.
If you knew
everything you
love today, would
be gone tomorrow,
including your family,
friends, your stuff,
your home, your pets,
would you slow down and
live differently?
would you look
at the world differently?
would you act differently?
It all will be gone, all of it,
love it all exactly like that.
Toni O’KEEFFE ~🌹❤️
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“Thank you for the good times, the bad times and the learning and growing we did together. I’m wiser, stronger and kinder because I had this time with you.”
Let these be your parting words as you walk away from ANY personal, professional or intimate relationship that’s come to an end.
If they you hurt you, let you down, caused you pain ~ forgive them. Learn from it.
The hate, disappointment, anger, fear, or regret you carry, feeds your pain, not theirs.
Walk away with a grateful heart knowing you’re wiser, stronger and kinder because of the time you spent together.
Even if it was painful, be grateful that this lesson is over.
Toni O’KEEFFE ~🌹❤️
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Life will hurt.
Nature will heal.
If you want
to hurt less,
you know
where to go.
Toni O’KEEFFE ~🌹❤️
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Look at you,
enjoying life,
finding joy,
laughing, spending
time with people
who lift you up,
loving yourself,
letting go
of all that
toxic stuff.
Way to go!!!
Oh, this isn’t you?
Why not?
Toni O’KEEFFE ~🌹❤️
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Pain has purpose.
let it hurt,
let it heal
then,
let it go.
Toni O’KEEFFE ~🌹❤️
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At any moment,
in any day,
you can stop,
and decide to
do things differently.
to live differently,
to love differently,
to care for yourself
or others
differently.
You have more
control over this
grand adventure
than you realize.
Toni O’KEEFFE ~🌹❤️
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Want to heal
the heart,
the mind,
the body,
the soul.
slow your pace,
slow your breath,
Step into nature
Toni O’KEEFFE ~🌹❤️
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Don’t waste your energy creating anger, hate, doubt, jealousy,disappointment, physical pain
Use it to create warmth, kindness, tolerance, self love
The day may come when the people, things and habits you’re used to, no longer fit or feel like you. Embrace the calling to let these things go and move on.
We’re not meant to stay stuck in the same place or the same mindset.
When water stops flowing it can become stagnate, foul, murky and toxic. If we stay stuck in the same place or mind set for too long, we can also become stagnant, foul, murky and toxic.
Our minds are meant to be exercised and fed. When we’re not grazing on new knowledge, new vistas, new opportunities or new adventures, we can get stuck.
We’re meant to flow, to move forward, to have new experiences, learn new things, challenge our own thinking, and grow.
Change can feel overwhelming and it might feel easier to stay in the box we know. Human beings do this all the time. We stay in uncomfortable relationships, uncomfortable situations, uncomfortable jobs, uncomfortable communities, uncomfortable shoes and uncomfortable behaviours and habits that add little joy to ours lives, because it’s familiar, it’s what, or sometimes “ALL”, we know.
But, once you rise, step out of your comfort zone, stretch your enthusiasm, move beyond your fear and shake off the old, you’re ready to take on the new.
Don’t waste your one beautiful life and your curious and hungry mind, remaining stuck in one place. The place that feels familiar may not be the place you belong.
Toni O’KEEFFE ~🌹❤️
***If you need help getting unstuck, reach out for support🙏🤗
Stop believing anyone who tells you you’re broken. You’re not, you’re absolutely beautiful.
You might hurt and have scars, but the pain you feel is growth, not brokenness.
Our life experiences aren’t supposed to feel, look or be the same as everyone else. So lets stop judging ourselves against the lives we see others live.
Your life journey might be painful because it’s about falling down and learning to get back up.
My journey might be filled with grief and heartache so I can understand loss and then comfort and have compassion for others when they experience it.
My neighbours journey might be about tolerance, acceptance and compassion, so they can become advocates for diversity and understanding.
We’re all going to fall and get hurt along the way, it’s part of the journey. Our hearts might get heavy and our spirits might crumble but, these are the experiences and emotions we’re meant to “grow” through.
Each stabbing ache, each crushing disappointment, every loss or painful fall from grace, provides us and those who bear witness to our lives, the opportunities to learn and transform. This pain shouldn’t break us, it should makes us stronger and wiser.
If you perceive your life as broken because you’ve been knocked down a few times, then you’ll feel broken. However, if you perceive your life as an amazing classroom, where you’re constantly learning and growing, then, you’ll greet each day with curiosity and excitement. You’ll become stronger and better equipped to deal with the tough stuff when it comes along. Let your scars be a reminder of how far you’ve come.
So relax, inhale the lessons, exhale and live the learning. No matter what people tell you or what you see in the mirror, you’re not broken. You’re both a beautiful student and teacher in this insanely wild and wonderful classroom called life. And, you’re right where you’re supposed to be, bumps, bruises, dents, scrapes, scars and all.
Toni O’KEEFFE ~ 🌹❤️
From time-to-time many of us feel an emptiness, a lacking or void we think we need to fill in order to be happy.
We exhaust ourselves chasing happiness, chasing love, searching for meaning, chasing more of this or more of that, buying stuff to try and fill the emptiness or the sense of “lacking” in our lives.
Trying to fill this emptiness with material possessions, temporary companionship, drugs, alcohol, and busyness, almost never works. These things might mask what’s going on beneath the surface for a short period of time, but, they rarely lead to sustained fulfillment.
Perhaps this sense of emptiness is not something that needs to be filled, but something that needs to be FELT.
Perhaps this space within the ether of our chaotic human mind, is actually a waiting room that’s meant to be left wide-open, allowing old feelings, attitudes and pain to leave, and new feelings, thoughts and peace to arrive. A space we visit to lance our wounds, release our tears and the stifled ache of pent-up grief, pain, loneliness, remorse or sadness until we understand “it” and find the lesson in “it”. A space to purge the ugliness of what’s hurt us in the past and let “it” go – creating space for new things, new purpose, new meaning, to arrive. A space where we push the darkness out, and let the light in.
When the ache of emptiness or lacking creeps in, rather than trying to fill it, try to feel it. Take a walk, exercise, journal, open up and start talking to someone, go into nature, sit quietly and meditate. It doesn’t matter which path you take to get to this space, what matters is that you arrive, and when you do, you ask your pain what it’s trying to teach you. Then listen, feel, and release the things that no longer serve you or bring you peace. The answer(s) may not come right away. You may need to visit this space several times. When the answers begin to arrive, thank your pain for the lessons, then let it go. As it leaves, visualize new energy, new purpose, new feelings of wellness and hopefulness arrive. Then go out and live this one beautiful life you’ve been given.
This concept may sound abstract, however, if you’ve been feeling the ache of emptiness within, and what you’ve been doing to fill the void has not been working, what have you got to lose? other than the ache of the emptiness that haunts you.
Perhaps not all empty spaces are meant to be filled, perhaps they’re meant to be felt.
Toni O’KEEFFE~🌹❤️
… to arrive at a place where the soul is calm and at peace with the storms its walked through,
…to hold no anger or regret,
… to carry a deep love and gratitude for the ones who have shared the journey, even if what was shared was painful,
…to love and be loved authentically,
…to sit in silence with the messiness of the world beside me and still be okay.
Ah yes, this is where I’m going…
Toni O’KEEFFE ~🌹 ❤️
The Whimsey Angel 